I'll raise him free. Help me !

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Yesterday, I was on my bed resting from 3 long weeks of hard work and absence of rest. A thought came to my mind about how much time I wasted in my life to find the things I love and work on improving those skills, I thought also about how much obstacles I faced through finding it, not materialistic obstacles but mental ones.
 As I looked around my thoughts were blocked by so many constrains that came from non-responsible people having no trusteeship at all. Also if they have any; they missed lots of skills in doing what they were doing.



Although all of that , I cannot blame them but instead am thankful and grateful for all the obstacles they have put through my life, those obstacles that sharpened many skills of mine that I wouldn’t have able to sharpen them anywhere else in this age.

For example, in the preparatory stages I didn’t go any training camp, scholarship or even a session without a long hard days of discussion with my dad, I cried for days to attend one session, as he was not convinced that those organizations will give me skills but instead they will control my mind and make me an infidel !

Those tears and long days of thinking made me arrive to the best ways in dealing with hard people and convincing them with things they were definitely offending it . In many times I lost my control but by training I learned to be a good listener and listen to a completely non-sense speech , just for the sake of making my opponent listen to what I have at the end.

About the infidelity thing, that fear he was putting in me was my one and only courage to explore dozens of ideologies and religions, it made me aware of many of the points of weakness in the most common ideological systems in the world, it taught me that it’s possible to do a mistake, and it’s also okay, as long as one admit his mistakes, it taught me also that it’s good to do a mistake, Because mistakes earlier are cheaper. it constructed a shield around my mind that protects it from following a thought or an idea that would lead me to either a waste of time, or a drift away from my own purposes of life, or against the rules of morals and ethics that I apply.

However, what I arrived after long time of thinking; is that if one day I was gifted with a child, I would raise him free, Free with every meaning of freedom, I would teach him how to choose , I would teach him that everything is possible, I would keep his mind liberated from any constrain. And of course I will not apply for him in any school. And I mean it, any school at all!

I will keep that young artist inside of him, and I will teach him how to be friends with him and get to know him better.
But wait a minute. Is this true? I mean would he gain the same experience if he was put in difficult situations where he arrives that he needs to seek his own way with himself?
Is it better to keep him away from schools and educate the best way education could be delivered? Or it is to put him in school and make him arrive himself that what he is doing is a waste of time.

In a theoretical form questionnaire, we could ask:-
 “Which is better? To put one inside a flawed environment and make him arrives to the flaws of this system? Or to create this system for him and make him involved in it directly?”
This question has always puzzled my mind for years. I look forward to know your opinions!

Thank you for your time.

8 comments :

  1. Nice post :)
    It's good to struggle for what you want and what you love..what can life mean if one doesn't find himself! :)

    I respect the point to teach your child how to choose and to make him free , but how do you contradict yourself and decide not to let him go to school ? This choice is not yours, now you are forcing him to be as you :D
    We don't protect our children by preventing them from taking the experiences we faced in our lives.
    In the life of our children we have to take decisions until they can make their choices .. We have to try to be as wise as we can , and trustworthy as we can , so that when our children grow up to the age they can take their own decisions they won't blame us for destroying their lives.
    You can't guarantee that life will affect him negatively as it did with you :)
    Good Luck in your life and your choices :)

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  2. so with the same reason how did u judge that school is the way he want :D :D :D
    it's an infinite loop of thinking as I told u :D
    may be we arrive that there is no absolute freedom of thought :) actually there is a mathematical theorem proven by a scientist called Godel, he proves that the mind abilities are not infinite which against what I used to believe :)

    i meant by avoiding school , avoiding rulez and interpretations that is transmitted to his mind. it will give him limitations that i don't want for him !

    thanks a lot really for your opinion :D may be i will reconsider that school thing and build him his own school :D isaaaaaa

    good luck to you too :)

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  3. I didn't say the right choice is to let him to go to school ... I just mentioned the point ..cause it's a confusing question ... we have to try to be as wise as we can so as not to regret what we choose :)

    By the way, you still can teach your child what you want , while going to a normal school, you might lose a lot if you built him his own school .. But aid him with your experience and knowledge :)

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  4. yeah ur right, may be as u say we just have to do our best :)

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  5. By making this only to your child then you are somehow selfish so I think why not to try to change and affect more and more people why not make a generic thing like trying to build a school--->> new school may be in the future there will be schools of this kind in which you will try to combine both educational contents nowadays(in order to be accepted from the Government and these routine things:D:D)and what you want your child be raised upon(all ideas and things u wanna include in teaching your child ). May be you must reach a compromise as you are not living in a world of your own and if you made a world of your own who told you your child would love to live in it too so I think that making a compromise like the idea I said is one of the best solutions to this problem.May be one day you will build this school and I will come with my child isA trying to join:D:D....bs sa3ethaa 7ataleb be 7a2 2l melkeya 2l fekryaa masalan wel kalam 2l kebeer da we 7ada5al 2bny men 3'eer feloos:D:D:D............Nice Article btw:):)

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  6. loooooooooooooool gamda gedan :D
    yeah it seems like a pretty good idea to me :)
    isa i'll work on that

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